You have changed.

It\’s interesting how a person change. It can happen in a day or two, in an year or two or may be even the next minute. I had written before about this \’changing\’ people. Change is inevitable. The only thing the world can do is to adapt with the change. If its your friend who is changing, either adapt to the change or may be just tell him or her that she is changing. \”Even you aren\’t understanding me.\” is the most likely reply you are gonna hear but don\’t be disappointed, you did your part.

A change can be due to psychological or sociological reasons. In an interesting meeting with a psychologist some days back, he explained how a person changes due to various reasons. For example, a girl who is raped by her own father will have that inner fear in her and she will generalize the whole male community. This reflects the memories that is set deep inside her mind which will never go. The only possible way to get her out of such situation is to set new layers over the base and make her live on that. Okay, I think I am talking about too serious changes.

I opened this page to write about something else, to let out the feelings in my heart. But something which happened sometime back made me think about how people manage to change so fast. My friends message me saying how their friends are changing and they dont know what to do with it. Oh yes, I am not spared as well. There are times I get caught up with one or the other thing and I dont get time to reply people. Then I will start getting a flurry of messages, \’You changed so much.\’ Really? Many a time in the beginning, I used to look at the mirror and ask myself \”Did I change?\”. Gradually I understood this change is a part of good selfishness. People talk about priority shifts but do they think people are dumb not to know what should be their priority? As far as my case is concerned, I often get caught up with work that I don\’t get time to reply these friends. As friends, they are supposed to understand that its that time of my life where career is important. Do they think I am dumb to choose them over my career? I am often called Selfish for this reason and this is exactly why I said \”Priority change is a part of good selfishness\”. At the end of the day all those who complain aren\’t the ones who live your life, its you.

I will tell all these and tomorrow when I come across one of my friends acting weird with me, I will go and tell him/her \”You have changed so much.\” Oh wait, some changes are dumb!