Respecting Privacy.

\”I have my own life to deal with. All the time, I cant be around you.\” How often does this sentence pop up between friends? How often does this sentence pop up in a love relationship? Does this sentence look sensible on both the occasion? What if this sentence comes in between siblings? Or may be between parents and a son? Think as much as you want, at the end you will join me in saying this sentence is utmost true and holds all sense between every kind of relation. But the difference lies in what this \”own life\” holds in each situation. That is where the kind and intensity of a relationship comes to the question.

The personal life of a person includes a lot more than his or her dressing style or the places he or she go. I will narrate a small incident from my life. I shared one of the most admiring friendships with a girl, two years back. We were probably best of the best friends and even now I would say, I never had a friend like her before her or after her. But she got into a relationship and her boyfriend restricted her from talking to me. Alas! The friendship ended. You see the irony in my before statement, don\’t you? Now this is a situation that has happened twice with me. I am sure each one of you have heard such stories, if not face it. Here, clearly the boyfriend doesn\’t respect the girlfriend\’s privacy on choosing her friends. To say that, he is being protective of her and saving her from harm is a highly debatable point. In this 21st century, if a girl doesn\’t know to protect herself, I believe, she doesn\’t deserve to be in a relationship first of all. What surety does she has to trust in the guy if she can\’t trust in her friends? To another extent comes the story of siblings controlling each others\’ friendships and relationships. It is understandable if the elder one is taking care of the younger but what if it happens vice versa? Yes, there chance a wider possibility of the younger one being more matured than the elder one. You can give advises, but I am surely not a big fan of taking decisions in others life through blackmailing and mental torturing. Why blame lovers or siblings? This happens in friendships as well. Suppose B is a mutual friend to A and C who are enemies. Both of them will definitely have an issue with B being a mutual friend. This would either grow into a fight between the three or someone would take a decision on B\’s life or may be, even worse, someone would walk out of B\’s life. Every time I hear an issue on privacy between friends or couples, I get reminded of a film dialogue. The actor says everyone has the freedom to wave their hand but the freedom to wave ends at the tip of the other person\’s nose.

In the age of Facebook and Twitter, people argue, it is difficult to have a private life. But Mark hasn\’t put a CCTV on your room or a mobile scanner in your heart to find out what you are doing and post it automatically on Facebook. You decide what to post and what not to. Referring to CCTV cameras all over the city by City police and in the theaters by the management, one of my friends told me it freaks her out at the thought of being watched closely by some stranger. To be fair to her, it does feel a little strange and weird but are they really getting into our privacy? I don\’t think so. If the road CCTVs\’ are implemented to maintain law and order, theaters don\’t want to be part of any MMS clip or piracy charges. Therefore I firmly believe such observance aren\’t an entry to our personal lives.

Most relationships break up because of this privacy issue. People got to respect each other privacy, likes and decisions. You don\’t have to like every decision your friend or son or partner takes but don\’t just insult him back. Talking about parents and son, I would really love it if everyone could check out this video. In my opinion, this should be an ideal parents in today\’s world. Let me end my thoughts on privacy with this quote.

I think privacy is valuable. You don\’t have to share everything, and it\’s healthy to occasionally hit the pause button and ask yourself if you\’re oversharing. But at the end of the day, if you\’re not doing anything wrong, you don\’t have anything to hide.

Ashton Kutcher