A false opinion – Enough to scatter everything.

\”See, I am a girl too. I know what she means when she says that.\” – A regular cliched line every boy who has a female friend in his close friends list hear when a tragedy happens to him. It happens vice versa too but boys tend to understand their sex better than how much girls understand each other. \”Give her space\” is probably the only sentence which is actually true and valid in every girl\’s advice or opinion about another girl. Every girl needs space and if the girl is a feminist, you better don\’t talk then! Having seen a lot of girls in life, I have slowly understood and realized that no girl can read another girl completely. Somewhere in bits and pieces, the judgement will be right but never completely.

When I was talking to someone whom I considered as a best friend until a month or so back, I told her \”We are dreaming together for a live-in relationship and not a marriage.\” Her reply was that of a typical Indian lady which totally shocked me. \”This is not America! And if she is not willing to marry, she doesn\’t love you and she is just probably attracted to your company.\” Check out the mentality. Check out the easier judgement she made! Its not like she has gone through the same situation or she understand completely the situation of the heroine. After that I didn\’t talk to her anything about whatever I am going through because I understood she is not going to understand this. For that, the mentality should change. It is not necessary for two people madly in love to marry. May be, they don\’t trust in it but they want to live together. It can happen. Its just that its not so common in this country, especially in Kerala. It is in this context, enter one of my other friends who was in supportive of our thoughts. This friend of mine completely understood both of us, a little more about her than me. Until this very moment, she has never told me anything offensive. Oh yeah, I love her for that.

Scroll back the time to probably 2 years or so, I heard one of my friends tell me \”Dude, when she says that dialogue, trust me, she is just ignoring you. I have told that in my life\”. The then me, who wasn\’t so wise and thoughtful believed and moved on in life. But now after coming to know the real meaning of those words, I realized that the same words can be told by many people but it doesn\’t necessarily carry the same meaning. Every girl who makes a judgement on another girl need to understand this. Its only few hours back one of my very close friends yelled at me and cut the friendship because I wasn\’t \’understanding\’ what she is trying to say. Of course, she is a girl and she understands girl better. It isn\’t like I am not understanding what she was trying to say, I do understand but I just don\’t believe it is the truth because I know the person whom she commented at better than what she knows. What comes to my mind right now is something my best friend Joel told me few months back, \”You can never judge a person character\’s even if you are friends for longtime\”. And then comes the opinion of someone who doesn\’t know the other person, personally.

Another sentence which comes from a girl is \”I have gone through this phase. Its just attraction towards another guy, nothing more.\” Although it has higher chance of being true, it doesn\’t need to be true everytime! Like in my case, I know well it isn\’t the truth. Call me mad or crazy, but I believe this person and I know better what is she. I will stand up for her anywhere and kindly don\’t expect me to stay quiet to your false prudence. I am not offending the fact having a female friend in your life is bad. It is indeed good, REALLY GOOD and every guy should have one. But don\’t just believe their words when it comes to an opinion about another girl. Every girl is a miracle, even they don\’t understand themselves most times. Also remember, when you make a false opinion about another girl, there are all chances for you to be at the receiving end at some point. What you think about someone else might be true but it can also be false. Its 50-50 and you got to understand that. This is where people annoys me. Just because I believe what they told is not the truth, they can\’t just start abusing me!

The whole point I am trying to say is, never make a judgement on anyone whom you don\’t know personally. There might be times in life when your wrong interpretations are believed and later it affects the whole mentality of someone else.

An opinion is not always a fact.